Most of you guys might remember my annoyance with the pity-date-gone-wrong, C, the Nose Blower who used way too many smiley faces when he sent his corny 3 page texts and was just a little too eager. He was very nice, which made me feel very bad.
A little while back, I had another guy who was also getting on my nerves, committing the similar offense of being just too nice. He would call when he said he would, sent 4 texts to my 1, and showered me with the sweetest compliments ever. I asked Mary if there was something wrong with me because his niceness made me feel violent. Well, nauseous first, then violent.
Am I being a hypocrite here? I'm always complaining that there are no nice guys in New York, that they never call, or never rightfully worship the ground I walk on. But then a nice guy comes along and I can hardly fight the intense urge to smash his face in. What's up with that? Am I being a total guy and am just out for the chase?
Yesterday, A sent me this funny article on dating that raises the question of whether a guy can be too nice. I think I've had nice guys that have fallen into the first three categories mentioned in the article:
1) He's so nice he can only be a friend.
There was this one guy that was just so nice that he never made a move, even though I knew he liked me. Since he never flirted I just didn't know how I would feel if we crossed the "friend zone."
2) He's so nice, he's not challenging enough.
I may be a challenge chaser after all. If they call too much, too soon, it kind of takes away that excitement you feel when you see that you had a missed call from the person or a text. You know they'll be there, which leads to #3.
3) He's so nice, he'll always be there.
A couple years ago I had met this guy that was a total package but I knew that he was a super nice guy and that he was very into me. I had just gotten out of a relationship and didn't want to get into something serious, which I knew, with this guy, it would be serious. So I put him on the back burner.
Am I totally backwards here? How do I get past the urge punch these guys in the face?